How To Become Less Shy Around Girls

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Whether you feel shy around most girls, or just around that one girl you like, it can be very frustrating. You don’t know how to ask her out or even start talking to her. If you do talk to her, you have trouble coming up with something interesting to say to make her like you. You wish she was your girlfriend, but you have no idea how to accomplish that.

In this article, I’m going to show you a couple simple steps to start overcoming your shyness around girls. It may seem like an impossible thing to do right now, but once you know the exact steps to take, it becomes simple and straightforward.

So let’s start off with the basic problem? Why do you feel shy around girls? Often it comes down to you feeling like you are lower status or lower value than them. You feel in some way inferior to them. By the way, notice how around girls who you aren’t as attracted to, you don’t feel as shy around them. This is because they don’t have the beauty which usually intimidates you. So how do you overcome inferiority so you can act confident around the girls you like? One way is to find out what is making you feel inferior and fix it. If you have crooked teeth, get them straightened. If you are overweight, start hitting the gym. If you feel ashamed of the clothes you wear, get a new style. If you think you’re a loner, learn how to make friends.

But what about problems you can’t fix? What about if you were just born way shorter than everyone else? What if you are just uglier than average, no matter what you do? In these cases, I would suggest that you just do whatever you can, but then learn to live with your appearance as it is and learn to accept it. Everyone has their flaws, and girls aren’t really looking for the flawlessly perfect guy anyway. I’m sure you’ve heard before how girls pay far less attention to a guy’s looks than to his personality. In my experience, this is true. Sure, there are some girls who only like good looking guys, but this is the minority. Most girls will look past any physical shortcoming you have if you are just confident and can make them laugh.

Instead of trying to make your appearance perfect, work on improving your social skills. The more you talk to girls, the less shy you will become. As you talk to more and more girls, it’s almost inevitable that you will find a girl you have chemistry with.

If you want to learn more about being less shy around girls and overcoming social anxiety, then click here to read my blog on how to overcome shyness here.

Thank you for reading. I’ll catch you up in my next article. Bye for now.

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